I was talking to a friend the other day and it got me thinking about video interviews or adding a video to an application to “try to stand out.” If you haven’t noticed lately I’m a little stuck on the job search, because my life isn’t existing because of lack of money and its been too long. “Woohoo,” she said with great sarcasm. But it got me to thinking about how I would even start something like that… Being another person who isn’t entirely great at describing themselves, I had to dig and then I came up with far too many things of course. So here’s my rambling for the day…
Who am I? I’m Christina Constabile. I am an artist, photographer, teacher, student, communicator, listener, reader, guide, lover, dreamer, seeker, romantic, fantasy adventurer, rebellious status quo challenger, talker, problem solver, savior (of everyone but me), fixer, leader, loner, explorer, traveler, light worker, searcher, researcher, answer finder, decision maker, dancer, actor, performer, intelligent, tech geek, good at every job I’ve ever had, philosopher, history buff, writer, care giver, adult, puzzle doer, logical realist, jack of many trades, constantly growing and evolving, animal lover and friend.
I am a person of ideas. I am a person who dreams and lets myself chase them. I’m a woman with an opinion and I am not afraid to use it. I can light up a room or hide in a corner. I can host a party, dinner or not. I can cook the dinner myself, and I will clean up after it. I am in every way an adult, but I will not play by your rules. I barely play by my own. I actually tell a joke just like that — Rule #1 I don’t sit at bars. Rule #2 never play by the same rule twice…
I want to live. I want to live a Life of wonderful crazy chaos that lets me be free and content until I don’t know any other way to be. I want a job that lets me come up with ideas, and put them into practice. I want to create things, and help people fix problems. I want to break stuff and make it better. I want to paint stuff and have fun making a mess, just because I can.
I don’t entirely know how to define myself because I don’t want to. I don’t exist in a box, I broke the box and colored on it when I was 4 years old. I am whoever I choose to be on any given day. I am and I’m not like most people that I’ve known and met throughout my life so far. I let myself be fearless in exchange for wondering “what if?” I keep trying to work towards being a person I love and can not only feel comfortable with being, but someone I actually want to live life as.
I’ve had millions of experiences, good and bad. And I’m realizing now more than ever, conditioning and expectations are boundaries more than they ever have been… and they are things one has to learn to let go of in real time.
In this same conversation I mentioned earlier, my friend taught me the origins of the word apocalypse. And for those of you who don’t know – I love language and the use of words in conversation and in unusual ways, so I’m usually the one giving origin/ etymology speeches, but this time he gave one to me.
Apocalypse – late 14c., “revelation, disclosure,” from Church Latin apocalypsis “revelation.” From the Greek apokalyptein “uncover, disclose, reveal.”
From apo “off, away from” + kalyptein “to cover, conceal.”
It made me think, right now I’m an apocalypse or in an apocalyptic state in regards to myself and my life. I’m working to reveal and uncover my truth and have revelations in regards to the way I want to live life. I’m right now attempting a paradigm shift of apocalyptic proportions, because I have to.
I’m trying to reveal and attempt revelations by thinking in new and different ways, by using patterns and showing myself what and where I could be rather than do nothing to change where I am not. I really have no idea where I go from here, but I need to go somewhere. And part of the reason I have no idea of where to go from here, and the reason I want to run and adventure and explore, despite having zero money or any clue what comes next is, I’ve suffered in my own existence and in my own head, because of the conditioning and upbringing I’ve had.
I’ve recently learned a piece of the puzzle I was missing and now I’m trying to make sense of it all, but also move past it. I don’t want a typical 9-5 job because it isn’t going to suit me. I don’t want a typical anything, but people around me keep proving they don’t want different. Well I don’t want typical. Maybe that’s me just wanting to do it the hard way once again, but people assume that you see more than one way to do things and that’s not always the case.
As I would believe most would not consider themselves an apocalypse in any way, and I am, despite wanting simply to live, and live simply – I would have to say what I want is typical but how I want to get it is not. Semantics aside, knowing as much as I do about myself, I have no definition to give. I have no word for me.
However, I keep going, I persist, I endeavor to persevere. I want love and to be loved. I want a life I love to live and to be a person I am proud and happy to be. I want a job or career that allows growth, personally and professionally, I want to create and play with my job and my life. I want to read and learn. I want to be in nature and make things. I want the proverbial all that is all to me. And I believe it is possible, because I have to. I have to.
So I am who? I am only me and that is enough.